Frank Kogan

but isn't being oppositional and outsider intrinsically immature? refusing to conform similar to refusing to grow up?

Not intrinsically. My refusing to let various magazines change my prose without clearing the changes with me wasn't immature. My then making jokes about breaking someone's kneecap when they changed the prose anyway was immature (though the jokes were actually funny). My not changing my style to snarkwod when an anti-intellectual boob bought out the Village Voice wasn't immature. My then - after the Voice cut me loose* - spending seven months in fear and piling up more debt rather than looking for more outlets for my work was immature.

It really depends on what one is trying to oppose or remove oneself from, and how one does it. My friend Nathan - the one who dislikes "Everybody (Backstreet's Back)" and whose attitude towards what he calls the "establishment" is oppositional - hosts open mics, promotes shows, is setting up his own label to record local bands with the intention of giving them a fairer shake financially than they'd likely get from the biz.

*Don't mean to imply that I was asked to change my style, which I wasn't. And I don't know for sure why I was cut loose except I'm positive the music editor would have liked to keep me.